The other day a colleague asked me what advice I would give on marriage and pre-marital counselling, considering he was about to take the plunge. I saw that message early in the morning, but it took me days to respond. Marriage is an interesting, complex, and multidimensional topic. Having been…

When I was younger, probably 20/21, I had a married cousin who said she couldn’t go to her father’s house when she’s pregnant because of “kunya“; that’s the Hausa word for shame. I remember thinking then that it was a silly thing to do because obviously your parents know you’re…

Can I just say how refreshing it is of how outspoken the women of this generation are? I’ve learnt more from the shared experiences of people than in the four walls of any class room. Recently, a 31 year old on twitter (@ahbiola) shared about going through early menopause and…

To borrow a phrase from my biblical ancestor, Solomon, “there’s something else I’ve noticed under the sun” and it’s the drama that surrounds wedding planning. You may ask what I mean and I’ll tell you; I’ve been around long enough to see friends and relatives get married and the pattern…

It’s that time of the year again. No, not the most wonderful time of the year but that time of the year when domestic staff go to their homes for the holidays, never to return again. Sometimes, I think our parents were the last generation to luck out with the…

This evening at a pharmacy, while waiting for the Pharmacist to ring up my order for me to pay, I noticed for the first time how male dominated the sexual enhancement drugs/essentials are. You know how they always keep the condoms, lubes, enhancement drugs at/around the counter, maybe so they…

At 10, I wanted to be a talk show host like Tyra Banks or Oprah  At 12, I wanted to be a model  At 15, I wanted to be an ambassador  God only knows what I wanted to be when I was younger; a teacher? A policewoman? On my career…

Last week, I woke up to a message from my chef requesting financial assistance because the area he lives in was about to be demolished and he would need to relocate, something he hadn’t planned for. As I contemplated what to do, I shared his plight with my husband who…

I find that as a last born, most times I’m never good enough and I don’t know if it’s a plight with most last borns in an African home with older siblings or it’s unique to me. I hope it’s the former because misery loves company. They’ll tell you it’s…