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Today at lunch, a colleague of mine complained about a friend who was being unreasonable by assuming she wasn’t being prioritised. My colleague ended her rant by saying “You can’t be everything to one person. It’s perfectly okay to have different friends for different reasons”.
And I thought fair, I mean it’s fine to compartmentalize friendships and have friends for jaiye jaiye, business, travels etc. But then another quote came to my mind, one that has been replaying in my head for months now. At breakfast one day, when I had gone to visit my sister, she said
Some people are for seasons
For some reason, it hit home, probably because it reminded me so much of a friend. This is someone I always thought would be my best friend but as we’ve gotten older, we’ve drifted. And now I understand how some of our parents had best friends they hadn’t spoken with/seen in years. Not because they fell out, they just grew apart. Someone I had spoken to almost on a daily basis, who became like a sister had somehow grown into a familiar stranger that I could go weeks and months without speaking to. And I don’t think I hold it against her, priorities changed like her seasons changed. If I’m being honest, it hurt and took a while to accept. I would think about her and wonder if all the messages about being a sister and never allowing things change between us were just words that felt good to say in that moment.
However, I’ve grown to accept our status quo and in accepting it, I realise that there are other “best friends” that have had their season in my life. Another that comes to mind is a friendship from my Masters year. I thought it was a friendship that would last forever but it turned out to be a friendship of proximity. Which is also fine in its own way so I decided to add to my sister’s quote
Some people are for seasons and you have to be okay with that
It’s not something to fight or hold against the other party. The best thing to do is accept that and cherish the relationship you had. Life happens to us all.
