Just so we’re clear, this is not a preaching. This is a rant from my personal view and experiences. Now that that disclaimer is out, shall we?
I have a problem with how christian women are groomed to be spiritual good homemakers but not the men. And then they are expected to find a good christian husband to settle down with when the time is right. So you’ve built up her spiritual life to a high level and expect her to get married but not to someone she’s unequally yoked with. How sway?
How please? You’ve rolled out seminars upon seminars, conferences and dedicated sermons on how to be a Proverbs 31 woman, a good thing that a husband will find and obtain favor from the Lord with but what did you do with the men? huh? Where was their own grooming? Where was their own “How to find a woman and keep her” seminar/conference? Where was the sermon on how to be a good spiritual covering for her? It’s always a praying mother, a praying wife, a praying woman. Sorry oh, I did not know that God only listened to one gender.
So on one hand, we have a common problem where there are good christian women out there but not men that they are compatible with, spiritually. You now want these women to do bob the builder and start building up the man’s faith. Why? Why do we have more men who grew up in the church dropping out of church than women? Saying things like
“Oh you know how these churches are”
“They are using your tithe money to fly private and build mansions”
“I don’t believe in going to church and praying, after all God is everywhere”
“God knows my heart”
Excuse me, are we reading the same bible? Because I believe it is very clear on certain things.
And on the other, you have the mothers and aunties constantly watching the marriage clock on your behalf, reminding you every chance they get that they can’t wait to tie asoebi for your wedding and eat jollof rice. You will wait.
Where was this energy when your sons were allowed to go lukewarm in their walk with God but not the women? No.
Make it make sense.
I’m not even sure where the blame lies but as for me and my house, i’m fed up of this norm.
This is an appeal to the new generation of christian parents, please uphold your sons to the same spiritual and moral standards you hold your daughters to. Do not neglect to build your sons while you’re building your daughters up. I will like to believe that we know enough to do better. Do not subject your daughters to the same problems that you or your family or your friends had to put up with. Because let’s be honest, this is a common problem that many can relate with
